Introducing Mumdrah

A need inside has been growing.

Competing with the responsibilities, demands and emergencies that rule and shape my everyday. Finally this desire has won a place in my list of priorities; and a blog is born.

There is so much to tell you, so much ready to spill out of me.  But stories are best shared when gently unfolded; so we will start with some basics of navigation in Mumdrah’s world.

Adoption brings out the best, and the very worst in me.  It involves a daily discovery of raw inner strength and resource i never new existed;  the pure, white love of devotional saints, the blood red claws of a protective lioness.  But i also stumble into the black depths of despair, frustration and anger; a selfish triad who slip their chains to release a screaming banshee that – once calm – is crushed by the horrors of her own lack of humanity.  The yin and yang of adoption.

I see this as a journey of four parts: birth parent, adoptee, adopter, and the poor bewildered collective of friends and family dragged unwilling into the intrepid journey. They say there is no wilderness left to explore, and yet the outback territory that adoption leads me into requires a machete.  There is no compass or map to guide us, no local knowledge to welcome or point to the right path; Debrettes can tell us nothing about the rights and wrongs of charting these rough but rewarding seas.

We hope to navigate our way through, knowing there is no way out.  Trying to find and build as much self love and wholeness during our journeying, while scaling the bitterness and trauma to cut it down to size.

Adoption is the forging fire into which we – all four – are thrown; to be hammered, shaped and changed irrevocably.  A process which causes as much pain and torment as it does triumph and agape.  It builds you up and strips you down, exposes you and isolates you, turns you upside down and inside out.

And i wouldn’t have it any other way. 


4 thoughts on “Introducing Mumdrah

  1. A beautiful description, and so very true. When preparing for adoption we learn of the adoption triad – birth parents, adopters, and adoptees, but we often forget the friends and family who get pulled in too.

    Thank you for sharing, and thanks for joining up to the Weekly Adoption Shout Out x

  2. You have written with such intensity what the true realty of being an adoptive parent can feel like. I can relate to so much of it and I especially like this line “It involves a daily discovery of raw inner strength and resource i never new existed; the pure, white love of devotional saints, the blood red claws of a protective lioness” Brilliant.

    Thank you for linking up with The Weekly Adoption Shout Out. x

  3. Really enjoyed reading your blog , nice to see the people behind the children . We all have to be a bit on the mad side to consider adoption , its what will get you through.

  4. Wow! Thanks for your comments; coming from you guys it means a lot. Each of our stories holds metaphors and themes that need to be shared x

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